I adored this essay - the absence of sincerity/ earnestness in dating is something that makes it worse for all involved. Ironic distance was never meant to be a part of that interaction
Truth after truth. I have just recently returned to the dating world and was shocked to see people are really still into that 4-D chess. No thank you, like I'm tired and my head hurts from all the decoding. I'll be holding onto my earnestness and vulnerability.
I've been craving to see someone put my thoughts into words like this for a long time. I want to be loved because I'm a human being with faults and imperfections and not because I'm so capable of hiding them.
V Interesting read & love this part : “People have a tendency to blame dating apps for everything, but I think so much of what we’re experiencing isn’t really new – anger and despondence are natural responses to the reality that if you want to find love, you are probably going to get hurt.” Really resonate with that. Even when your in a healthy relationship, which I am now for the first time in my life ( and we met on hinge lol) it can still be so scary to think you can be loyal and super loving and still end up hurt
A very important perspective!! I recently broke up with my boyfriend of six years and after being plunged back into the dating scene was insanely overwhelmed. I have learned to lead with love and not let vulnerability be a weakness (although I’m still working on not fixating on being “the black cat”). Thanks for validating this lover girl 🩷.
" prioritising my desirability over my own desires" wow, loved this post. definetly dating should be fun, not a game. thank you for sharing !!
I adored this essay - the absence of sincerity/ earnestness in dating is something that makes it worse for all involved. Ironic distance was never meant to be a part of that interaction
Truth after truth. I have just recently returned to the dating world and was shocked to see people are really still into that 4-D chess. No thank you, like I'm tired and my head hurts from all the decoding. I'll be holding onto my earnestness and vulnerability.
I've been craving to see someone put my thoughts into words like this for a long time. I want to be loved because I'm a human being with faults and imperfections and not because I'm so capable of hiding them.
V Interesting read & love this part : “People have a tendency to blame dating apps for everything, but I think so much of what we’re experiencing isn’t really new – anger and despondence are natural responses to the reality that if you want to find love, you are probably going to get hurt.” Really resonate with that. Even when your in a healthy relationship, which I am now for the first time in my life ( and we met on hinge lol) it can still be so scary to think you can be loyal and super loving and still end up hurt
A very important perspective!! I recently broke up with my boyfriend of six years and after being plunged back into the dating scene was insanely overwhelmed. I have learned to lead with love and not let vulnerability be a weakness (although I’m still working on not fixating on being “the black cat”). Thanks for validating this lover girl 🩷.