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Zoe Elisabeth's avatar

I feel like the chronically online era is making people so focused on being perceived that they forget they can actually exist outside of people's eyes as well, and you've put that whole phenomenon into words so well with this. Super interesting take on the way we think about being "hot"

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nikki's avatar

Thanks for this 🤗🤗🤗 such a good read

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Anna Hobson's avatar

I adored this wonderful essay, thank you for writing it

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Jamison's avatar

This was so good! Perfect for me because my junior prom is coming up, and for the first time in my life I’ve considered not eating or watching my food intake the hours before the main event in hopes of being invoking envy in some of my peers, (the ones I don’t like obviously) as a way to feel better about myself. Strike them with envy with my skinny waist and thicker thighs and grab attention for boys to ultimately be over-sexualized. This was great! Hotness doesn’t serve me pleasure.

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Ismene Ormonde's avatar

i’m so happy this is the message you got from this!!! you are going to have a wonderful time at junior prom 🩷

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Valeria Reinosa's avatar

This is great. I enjoyed it. I wanted to retort that I am hot without needing to do much, but then again I also do things to be hot, too. It's enjoyable to look at myself. I love aesthetics and beauty. The power that comes with hotness is dangerous. I often feel a disturbing hot imposter syndrome: am I given attention and opportunities for my appearance, as opposed to other efforts? The Halo effect is real. Beauty is a dimension of privilege and status that is really hard to dissect.

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Amanda Gunn's avatar

Such a vulnerable piece with so many interesting points!! And absolutely love the ending 💋

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what now?'s avatar

Amazing read.

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Amber's avatar

This is so good!

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TJ's avatar

Jesus Christ. Shared consciousness much?

Great article.

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zaina's avatar

oooo these are such interesting observations

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